Can you tell when a guy is thinking about breaking up with you? You might think that matters of the heart are super complicated and mysterious and that broken hearts always come out of left field. While it’s true that sometimes love and relationships just don’t make any sense, it’s also true that you can definitely tell when a guy’s heart isn’t in it anymore.
If you know what signs to look for, you can tell when your boyfriend doesn’t want to be your boyfriend any longer. If you can relate to anything on this list, it definitely sucks, but the truth is that not every couple is meant to last and it’s so much better to find out sooner rather than later. Just think about how happy and in love you can be once you find someone who’s a much better match. It can be tough to look on the bright side when a break-up is involved, but you’ll totally get there, and you’ll be happier than you ever were before. Sometimes things in life are a blessing in disguise. That applies to a broken heart, even if it might not seem like it at first. Okay, it definitely doesn’t seem like it at first…


If he’s doing one of these 10 things, he’s about to dump you. Can you relate?!

1.He’s Become Less Attentive To Your Feelings


Being in a relationship with someone means caring deeply about them and dealing with their emotions. Sure, you don’t want to be anyone’s doormat, but you don’t want to feel like your partner just doesn’t care about you feel about anything.






When your boyfriend wants to break up with you, he’s going to stop caring about how you feel. And he’s going to act like it, too, so it’ll actually be pretty obvious. He’ll change plans even when he knows that you’ve been looking forward to your planned date night for a while, and he’ll refuse to listen when you tell him that you’re unhappy or worried about something. He just won’t want to deal with your feelings since he’s got one foot out the door.

2.Cancelling Plans For No Reason

If you want to do something, you’ll do it. That goes for anything, from committing to a healthy way of eating to working out to working hard. That also means that when you want to be with someone, you’ll do everything within your power to spend a lot of time with them. But if you’re not so sure that they’re the right person for you, that’s not going to be how you feel.
If your boyfriend starts canceling plans for absolutely no reason — and if he tries to give you an excuse but you can tell that it’s super lame and vague — then he just might be thinking about leaving you. He’s also trying to avoid you so he doesn’t have to face the truth, which is that he knows that things are over. Yup, it’s definitely a cowardly way to act.

3.Starting Fights About Little Things

Ugh. This is honestly the worst thing that someone can do because it’s annoying AF. And yet it’s a pretty common thing when a guy wants to dump you.
He’s going to be dealing with a lot of negative emotions about the fact that he wants to break up, and instead of dealing with them in a healthy way by, you know, talking to you, he’s going to start arguments. He won’t have anything to really argue with you about, of course. He’ll complain that you want to order pizza instead of making dinner or something silly like that, and he won’t back down when you ask why he’s making such a big deal out of absolutely nothing. It’s definitely not a fun time for either one of you.


4.Hanging Out With His Friends More Often Than Usual

If you and your boyfriend have been super close and serious for a long time, that definitely means that you spend a lot of time together. Your relationship should be very important to both of you and that can’t be true if you never see each other.
It’s a bad sign if your boyfriend starts seeing his friends more than he usually does. Once his social life starts cutting into his date nights with you, you’ll probably wonder if something is up, and the truth is that something is definitely wrong. This is another thing that guys do when they want to avoid facing the truth about their relationship, so watch out for that. Spending a lot of time apart can never, ever be a good thing for a couple.

5.Texting 24/7…And He’s Super Secretive About It

Who is texting? No, really, who is texting all the time? You’re going to wonder if he’s cheating on you once you see him doing this, and you might be right. Even if he’s not cheating, he might be thinking about it, and even if he’s not thinking about it, the truth is that things aren’t working out between the two of you.
Things aren’t looking good if you bring this up and your boyfriend says that he’s not texting anyone or that he’s texting “no one.” Real mature, right?! It’s so awesome to hear that and not be able to have an actual, grown-up conversation about what’s going on. You have every right to be upset and frustrated if you see that he’s doing this.

6.Working Late And Not Checking In With You

Everyone has to work late sometimes, or at least most people do (unless they have a truly sweet situation). It’s just part of life and really not a big deal.
The problem is if your boyfriend starts working late all the time and doesn’t check in with you. If you live together and have no idea when he’s going to come home because he doesn’t tell you, and you’re sitting there wondering where he is, that’s pretty horrible. He should respect and care about you enough to tell you these things. There’s really no good reason for him not to text and say he’ll be home a few hours later than he usually is. If he’s not checking in, he’s not thinking about you as the most important person in his life, and that’s a really bad sign.



7.Finding New Hobbies And Interests

People don’t change, no matter how much you might want them to, so it seems pretty unlikely that your long-term boyfriend would magically and suddenly become interested in yoga or travel. If he’s suddenly got some new hobbies and interests, it just might mean that he’s thinking about breaking up with you.
He might be bored with the relationship because he knows that it’s not right for either one of you, and that’s going to make him feel bored with his entire life, too. He’ll want to spice things up and make things more exciting, and he’ll look for things to do outside of your relationship. If you feel that he’s acting weird and different than usual, you’re probably right and you should trust your instincts.

8.Making Travel Plans And Doesn’t Consider Including You In Them

It’s usually great news if your boyfriend tells you that he wants to go to Paris this spring or New York next fall. Because you’ll totally be going with him, right?! And it’ll definitely be the best, most epic, most magical and romantic trip ever.
But wait… he didn’t include you in his travel plans. In fact, he says that he’s going on a solo vacation, or he’s going somewhere with his buddies. Um, no, that’s super weird. This is a surefire sign that he wants to end the relationship. If you guys are truly meant to be and truly soulmates, you should do everything together, and that includes traveling if that’s something that’s within your budget. It’s super sketchy if he wants to go without you.

9.Complaining All The Time About The Most Mundane Things

No one wants to date a person who complains all the time. Chances are, if your boyfriend has suddenly become a master complainer, he wasn’t like that when you met him and first started dating. He probably hasn’t ever been like this. But now he whines about everything and you just can’t tell what’s going on.
Well, here’s what’s probably going on: he wants to end things because he knows that this isn’t the best relationship for him. And instead of manning up and telling you how he feels, he’s complaining all the time about the most boring things ever. His complaints will make absolutely zero sense and will be pretty annoying for sure. You have every right to wonder why he’s acting so differently and you definitely want to have a serious talk.



10.Talking About His Ex-Girlfriend Out Of The Blue

This is a serious red flag, and it’s not something that anyone ever wants to have happen. Your boyfriend definitely has that one ex-girlfriend that he’s told you about a lot. That might be because it was a truly toxic relationship and he’s so happy to get out of it, or maybe it’s because they were super in love and she cheated on him and destroyed him or something. You definitely want the first situation to be true.
If he starts talking about her all the time, you can be sure that he’s not interested in being your boyfriend anymore. He might be thinking about going back to her or he might not, but either way, he’s thinking about his romantic options and you’re not in his romantic future anymore.

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